Unfortunately, not everyone will like everyone. This is something I’ve come to realise and why I understand it’s perfectly fine, and realise it’s not my issue, it still hurts. When you try to be a nice person to everyone and people still express their distaste for you, it can feel like no one likes you. Silly isn’t it? What makes one person’s opinion so worthy? I’m in this situation right now in my personal life, so it’s kind of therapeutic for me to write this out. Bear with me.
It can be hard, but letting go of past hurt and putting things behind you can really make you feel better. Knowing that you can’t do anything about a person’s opinion of you can really eat away at you. Letting go of this feeling can be super liberating. But how to do it?
Unfortunately, in a lot of adult situations, you need to be around people that you don’t mesh with. Maybe it’s a friend of a friend, someone’s partner or a coworker. Being nice to the person that hates you can be really difficult. Especially if they make it harder on you by being rude, or flat out ignoring you. Rather than being nice to them, just be polite. It can actually be a bit annoying for them I imagine. But being polite still puts you in a positive light, and others around you will notice that you are being nice, and the person in question is ignoring you, or being snarky.
Forgive them. Unthinkable, I know. But you really don’t know what is happening in someone’s personal life. They could be depressed, anxious, be dealing with jealousy or perhaps they are grieving and taking it out on people that don’t deserve it. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, and you don’t have to tell them you forgive them for being catty. But in your mind, forgive them for their faults, and move on. I promise it makes you feel 100% better.
Try try TRY not to talk about them behind their back. This can be a hard one to shake. Unfortunately, these things have a way of getting back to the person you are speaking about, Furthermore, talking about others behind their back can really shine a bad light on you. It paints you as someone who speaks ill of others, and the people you are talking to then think “what does this person say about me when I’m not around?”
I’m still learning about these things myself. Feel free to leave your own advice below!
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